Friday, August 21, 2009

The Good Wife

Well, I'm officially out on unpaid Family Medical Leave for an undetermined amount of time. I will be out until and if I find acceptable care for Kendall. If that doesn't happen, I will be home permanently. Things were out of control crazy, and as I said before, being there with Kendall is the most important thing to me.

So, I'm now a stay at home mom. Cooking dinners for my family every night, cleaning my house (on my own!) managing Kendall's care, getting Kamden to school and home every day...and I've never felt happier or more at peace with a decision in my life.

Things are going to be tight financially, but we'll make do. Long gone are my days of pedicures, personal training, and shoe shopping. But I don't have time to do those things anyway. Maybe I will be successful in getting Kendall on a decent nap schedule between therapies so I can start sorting through all the unorganized closets in our house! That's first on my list.

In the mean time, thanks to my friend Aileen, I have this excerpt from The Good Wife to help guide me on this new journey...

Have dinner ready. Plan ahead, even the night before, to have a delicious meal ready on time for his return. This is a way of letting him know that you have be thinking about him and are concerned about his needs. Most men are hungry when they get home and the prospect of a good meal is part of the warm welcome needed. Prepare yourself. Take 15 minutes to rest so you'll be refreshed when he arrives. Touch up your make-up, put a ribbon in your hair and be fresh-looking. He has just been with a lot of work-weary people. Be a little gay and a little more interesting for him. His boring day may need a lift and one of your duties is to provide it. Clear away the clutter. Make one last trip through the main part of the house just before your husband arrives. Run a dustcloth over the tables. During the cooler months of the year you should prepare and light a fire for him to unwind by. Your husband will feel he has reached a haven of rest and order, and it will give you a lift too. After all, catering to his comfort will provide you with immense personal satisfaction. Minimize all noise. At the time of his arrival, eliminate all noise of the washer, dryer or vacuum. Encourage the children to be quiet. Be happy to see him. Greet him with a warm smile and show sincerity in your desire to please him. Listen to him. You may have a dozen important things to tell him, but the moment of his arrival is not the time. Let him talk first - remember, his topics of conversation are more important than yours. Don't greet him with complaints and problems. Don't complain if he's late for dinner or even if he stays out all night. Count this as minor compared to what he might have gone through at work. Make him comfortable. Have him lean back in a comfortable chair or lie him down in the bedroom. Have a cool or warm drink ready for him. Arrange his pillow and offer to take off his shoes. Speak in a low, soothing and pleasant voice. Don't ask him questions about his actions or question his judgment or integrity. Remember, he is the master of the house and as such will always exercise his will with fairness and truthfulness. You have no right to question him. A good wife always knows her place.


Anonymous said...


Early in our marriage, Studly Hubby and I looked around and did not like what we saw from the lives of parents who were both f/t employed. Just like you said, "out of control crazy". We decided we would learn to live on one income so long as our children were at home. Many people can't imagine it, but it has worked for us, and for our children. SH was a stay-at-home-husband for 11 years. He was very good. I am able to blog now because we switched 5 years ago. Part-time income helps and gives us a better vacation or car, but we have always been secure. (Sorry I went on so long.)

Janis @ SneakPeek said...

Welcome to SAHM-dom! I hope things work out for the best, even if your toes look cruddy! But for goodness sakes, keep 'em covered, 'after all a good wife knows her place.' That stuff always cracks me up!!

Jessica said...

Hahahaha!! You had me going for awhile! Is this a REAL book?!? YEA for you staying home, I hope you enjoy every second of it. Just remember, it is more important now than ever to take time for yourself (it took me awhile to accept that and NOT feel guilty!!). Can't wait to see you guys in a couple of weeks!!!